I know I know, it sounds so cliche, but there’s a reason you hear this quote a lot. It’s said by people who have paid the price of being unhappy for a very long time because they find themselves stuck in situations (and by situations I mean relationships, friendships, etc) where they didn’t love or respect themselves and therefore allowed themselves to be taken advantage of by people they loved. I’m not here to tell you how you can stop this from happening because the answer is simple. Self-love and self-care. I’m here to remind you of the importance of this in case you’re falling into this trap without even realising.
A lot of people think that putting yourself first is selfish. Putting yourself first doesn’t mean that you’re completely dismissing the feelings of others. It simply means that you prioritise your well being as well as the people who TRULY BENEFIT YOU. What comes with this is letting go of toxic people and when you do this, you have more time for the people who actually give a shit about you and not the people who just pretend to. Making that first step of cutting people off is difficult, but it benefits everyone in the long run. Not only are you able to give more time to those who really matter, but the happier you are, the better the love and care you are able to give to others.
The happier you are, the better you are at making life decisions too. Sometimes when you’re in a bad place, you can get so consumed in your feelings and make selfish decisions based on that. When someone is mistreating you, you may take it out on people who don’t deserve it rather than directing it at the person who needs to be told how their behavior is making you feel. The clearer your mind, the better decisions you make and the longer that you let someone disrespect you, the harder it’s going to be to get out of your head. When you’re at your happiest, the more beneficial you are not just to your loved ones but to the world.
And finally, the most obvious reason, knowing your worth. Everyone wants to feel important and valued, don’t they? Well, it has to come from you first. Do you know why? Because no one will respect you if you don’t respect yourself. If you display yourself as a broken person, the wrong people will be drawn to you. However, this doesn’t mean that you should be ashamed of being broken because there are important lessons in those scars you’ve got but the real question is have you learned them yet? Having a victim mindset will make you miserable because negativity loves negativity. Focus on growing and knowing your worth a little more each day and your life will improve and all the people who truly love you will be so happy to see you glow.